People Who Want to Rain on Your Parade

I’ve been a single mother of two boys, now ages 18 and 15, for close to fifteen years, and I have countless stories to share, so here is one that has always stuck in my mind.

My boys were very little, say five and two. We were in our local fast food restaurant and they were eating their chicken nuggets and French fries. Being quiet, not bothering anyone. The little guy was standing in his seat, but I had next to me so he couldn’t fall. And the other guy was busy eating his food on the other side of the table. All was good.

Then these two women walked by and one of the abruptly stops, looks at me and says, “Thank God those days are over, I could never do that again”. And I remember thinking, “Who asked you?”

It’s not like I was shouting at them, or they were running around like crazy kids?

That scene has stuck in mind for one reason after all these years, and one reason alone. I found it so incredibly hurtful that anyone would say such a thing (you can think all you want, but to say it)? Here I was, having a wonderful time with my two little guys and then have some strange women say something so rude and obnoxious?

That bothered me for days afterward.

So the moral of the story? There are plenty of people out there in this world of ours who love to prick holes in your good time. People who want to rain on your parade. 

Don’t let them!

As always,

Patti Bokowski

www.ninefrogs.com

Making your dreams come true

I know a lot of people out there who have a dream, an idea, a passion they want to pursue.  The reason I know this is because over the past year while talking about my own dream, so many people have opened up to me about their own dreams.  Only they just can’t quite figure out how to make it happen.  Or even “if” they could make it happen.  They think how can they get from Point A to Point B? How can they make it work when they work full-time, have a family, going to school?  People who have just come out of failed relationships?  Thinking, how can they meet someone new?  No one is going to love them ever again? My advice, if you want to make it happen, you will.  You will figure it out.

Want to know what it took for me to get here?  To make my dream come true? To having this website?  A LOT OF WORK.  Plenty of hours at the library reading business books, articles, researching everything I could get my hands on that I thought would help me.  Networking.  E-mailing people asking for advice.  Seminars.  Classes.  Free help wherever I could find it and get it.  

And what happened over this past year.   A few failures.  Many disappointments.   Business cards that didn't work, too much copy.  One that didn’t include the web address big oops (my fault, rushing).  First website didn't feel right.  Second website didn’t look right.  Third time was a charm as they say.  Was it easy, hell no.

Time frame for this venture of mine:  one year, I started last October. 

So my advice for anyone out there who can't imagine "how" it will all work out? "How" they will get to where they want to be? “How” they will meet that new person?  “How” will they find their new job? "How" it will all come together?  No matter “what” your dream or goal is.  Be it a new business, a new partner, a new job, a new place to live. If you can dream it, you can do it.

Just put it in your mind that this is what you want, repeat several times a day and watch miracles start to happen.  Watch the right people come into your life.  Watch the perfect opportunities come into your life.  Just make sure your mind is OPEN to everything, because if you aren't aware, you might miss some golden opportunities.

Patti Bokowski

www.ninefrogs.com

Nine Frogs Services

I am currently offering the following services:

Personal/Image Styling

For those looking to update, change or revise their current style.

Wardrobe De cluttering & Organization.

Wardrobe updates, closet/dresser organization.

Self-Confidence/Self-Esteem Building.

For those that are looking for some inspiration/motivation, some positive feedback & help getting back on track!

**All Services Come With a Free 15 Minute Phone Consultation **(limited time offer) Servicing NYC to Montauk.

*An extra travel fee will be added to any location further than 25 miles from Kings Park, NY.

Call me to discuss what it is you want to achieve and let's see if we can't make it happen?


If you would like to know more about Nine Frogs and my services please go to my website at www.ninefrogs.com

Till then,
Patti

 

Three Things To Make Tomorrow A Better Day

There are many things you can do to make tomorrow a better day.  Here are a few tips that I have put together, they are easy, free, and will make you feel better, guaranteed.

SMILE – yes, you have all heard this one before, but some of you are still not doing it.  When you wake up tomorrow, make it a point to smile to whoever you come across.  Your significant other, the cashier at the coffee shop, co-workers, you get the idea.  Even if you aren’t feeling it, do it anyway and I will guarantee you the process alone will start to make you feel better.

MAKE EYE CONTACT – that’s right.  With every person you speak with, look them in the eye.  This is so important for your relationships with others.  Let’s people know you are really listening to them.  Making eye contact is just another form of good listening skills.

DRESS YOUR BEST – doesn’t matter what you do.  If you wear a uniform every day for your job, make sure your uniform is clean and presentable.  If you don’t wear a uniform and can wear what you want, pick out a great outfit, something really special.  Style your hair nicely, shave, put on some good cologne/perfume, put on some make-up, really shine. No matter what you do, get dressed and knock it out of the park.  You won’t believe how good you feel, how better you will interact with others and how others will perceive you.  You will carry yourself better, have more confidence throughout the day and I guarantee you, that by the end of the day, you will want to do it again the next day!

Have a great day and remember, Dress For Success.

Image plays a very big role in our lives today.

Image plays a very big role in our lives today. How you show yourself to the world is how you are perceived by the world, so what is your "look" saying?

It doesn't matter if you are a size 4 or a size 24. Beauty comes in different shapes and sizes. Remember, you don’t have to look like a supermodel to be beautiful. True beauty comes from the soul; you can see it in a person’s eyes. There is a certain twinkle, a spark that says, “I feel good & I know it”!

If you are:
Recently divorced or separated?
Looking for a job & want to sharpen your image?
Been through a rough patch & would like some inspiration/motivation?
Need a new outlook on life & style?

So if you are struggling with the "hows", and looking for someone genuine, someone who will help you to redefine your look, overcome your fears & be the awesome creature you were born to be.

Please check out the"Services" page at www.ninefrogs.com, then call me!

Till then, Patti