Think Different

"If you always do what you have always done, You will always get what You always got"

Have you ever heard this one?

Think about it, if you keep doing the same thing day in and day out and are looking for different results, chances are that’s not going to happen. This applies to pretty much everything in your life.

Looking for a new partner but you always to the same social site, day after day…and no luck. Why not try a new social club? Looking for a new job but keep looking at the same want ads or websites. Why not take a handful of your resumes and walk around to different businesses, can’ hurt?

Point is, when we have an issue or problem in our lives, we seem to revert to the same way we have always done something and expect different results. In order to get a better result, you need to do something different, out of the ordinary for you. This is how you grow. This is how you come out of your comfort zone. I know, scary stuff.

But in order to live the life you are destined to live, coming out of your comfort zone is part of that process. For me, I have recently given two public speeches. Not long ones, but I still had to get in front of a group of people and talk. That is coming out of my comfort zone.

I also do a lot of networking for my business and most cases, I go to these events by myself. Again, out of my comfort zone. In the past I would have made sure someone I knew was going to be there and have someone go with me. Not these days, if there is an event I want to attend, I don’t even think about it. I just go. Luckily for me, I usually find someone I know, but not every time. But I know if I want to grow my business, networking is part of that and so I do it. And know I look at it as somewhat of an adventure, never knowing who I will meet and what is in store.

So the next time you have an issue and need an answer, instead of going right, go left. Instead of going where you usually go, go somewhere different. Think different. For the simple act of thinking different will get you different results, hopefully better ones!

Keep dreaming big …

Patti Bokowski

www.ninefrogs.com

The Law of Attraction in Reverse

Ever try and chase after a toddler?  What do they do?  Run the other way?  How about chasing after someone you like?  Chances are same thing, they run in the other direction. Chase a dream, nine times out of ten it doesn’t work.  Chase after money, it will slip through your fingers and leave you penniless.  Chase after clients and you probably won’t have many as you will have scared them all away.  It’s like chasing after the elusive dream, you never really get there.

That’s the funny thing about chasing things.  You chase, “it” goes in the opposite direction.  Think about it, if a bear was chasing you, you would run.  If someone pursues you aggressively, you pull back.  Appear too eager in a job interview, and you look too needy, you don’t get the job.  Wake up in a bad mood, notice how everyone will avoid you most of the day as if you are repelling them.

I guess it is human nature.  Whatever we chase runs away.  What I like to call “The Law of Attraction in Reverse.”  Sometimes we just can’t help ourselves.  We let our emotions get the better of us.  We are human after all.  Unfortunately, that is not the way to attract the things we want into our lives.

We see “something” we want, or “someone” we want, or “something” someone else has or “someone” someone else has that we want…sometimes it is a never ending cycle of want.  The problem happens of “how” we go about “attracting” what we want into our lives.

And I have learned recently, (well actually I knew of it a long time ago, I just forgot), the way to bring anything “into” your life is to attract it, not chase it.  Attracting brings people, love, opportunities, money, happiness, friends, travel, etc. into your life.  Chasing just pushes everything in the wrong direction.

It is simply a mindset.  A mindset that says “what I want I attract into my life”.  Want to take it a step further?  Write it down.  That makes it even more powerful.  Read your list everyday.  Visualize it.  Know it.  Feel it.  Then watch to see your life change.  Watch to see how people react to you.  Watch to see how love, people, opportunities and all kinds of good things start to come into your life.  Simply by changing your mindset…

Till next time, keep moving forward…

Patti Bokowski

www.ninefrogs.com