The Law of Attraction in Reverse

Ever try and chase after a toddler?  What do they do?  Run the other way?  How about chasing after someone you like?  Chances are same thing, they run in the other direction. Chase a dream, nine times out of ten it doesn’t work.  Chase after money, it will slip through your fingers and leave you penniless.  Chase after clients and you probably won’t have many as you will have scared them all away.  It’s like chasing after the elusive dream, you never really get there.

That’s the funny thing about chasing things.  You chase, “it” goes in the opposite direction.  Think about it, if a bear was chasing you, you would run.  If someone pursues you aggressively, you pull back.  Appear too eager in a job interview, and you look too needy, you don’t get the job.  Wake up in a bad mood, notice how everyone will avoid you most of the day as if you are repelling them.

I guess it is human nature.  Whatever we chase runs away.  What I like to call “The Law of Attraction in Reverse.”  Sometimes we just can’t help ourselves.  We let our emotions get the better of us.  We are human after all.  Unfortunately, that is not the way to attract the things we want into our lives.

We see “something” we want, or “someone” we want, or “something” someone else has or “someone” someone else has that we want…sometimes it is a never ending cycle of want.  The problem happens of “how” we go about “attracting” what we want into our lives.

And I have learned recently, (well actually I knew of it a long time ago, I just forgot), the way to bring anything “into” your life is to attract it, not chase it.  Attracting brings people, love, opportunities, money, happiness, friends, travel, etc. into your life.  Chasing just pushes everything in the wrong direction.

It is simply a mindset.  A mindset that says “what I want I attract into my life”.  Want to take it a step further?  Write it down.  That makes it even more powerful.  Read your list everyday.  Visualize it.  Know it.  Feel it.  Then watch to see your life change.  Watch to see how people react to you.  Watch to see how love, people, opportunities and all kinds of good things start to come into your life.  Simply by changing your mindset…

Till next time, keep moving forward…

Patti Bokowski

www.ninefrogs.com

Tip for the Small Business Owner & the Benefits of FIVERR

For those of us who are small business owners, we know how frustrating it can be? We are the CEO, COO, Director of Communications, Head of PR, The Admin, Networking Expert, Shipping Coordinator and anything else anyone can throw in there.

We are also usually working on a shoe string budget for those of us starting off fresh.  So it is always great when someone can share something helpful to our businesses, that won’t cost us a lot.  So today, I have something to share.

For anyone who has never heard of them before, let me introduce you to FIVERR.

FIVERR is this great website where you can find just about anyone who will do just about anything all for $5.00.  Seriously, it is amazing what some people will do for $5.00.  And there are a ton of marketing, PR, and graphics people, talented people, and right at your fingertips, who are more than willing to help you, all for $5.00.

I have had my picture photo shopped, had a logo made, one of my first business cards made, a banner for my Etsy account, an elevator speech written and more things than I can remember done with FIVERR.  Were there any projects they did that I wasn’t happy with? Sure a couple. But I was only out $5.00.

The way it works is, say you want someone to wear a t-shirt with your company logo on it (yes, there are people who will do that), you simply go to that category and then decide who you want to do the job (on FIVERR, they are called gigs). You pay for the gig (PayPal is the option of payment with them) and the person who is doing the gig will then send you an e-mail with any pertinent information they need to know to do the gig.

It really is amazing the talent you will find on there.

And now here is another thing about Fiverr, do you have a product or service that you want to provide on FIVERR? It’s a great way to get PR!  Granted, you only get $5.00 (actually I think you only get $4.00 because the good people of FIVERR have to get their cut) but still, recognition plus a couple of bucks, something to look into.

My advice, check them out, you never know who or what service you may find to help you out.

Here’s my latest purchase, hope you like it

Dream Big …

Patti

www.ninefrogs.com

Summer Fashions

This past Thursday I had the pleasure of attending Pulse Magazine’s Fashion Show at Talon Air at Republic Airport.  Timing is perfect, because to me, this is the best time of year for clothes. Spring and summer fashions always seem to me to have the best colors, styles, fabrics and let’s not forget the fabulous sandals. That’s a blog for another day.

What a fantastic event. The models were gorgeous as you would expect models to be, the music was amazing and the crowd was enthusiastic as ever to see the latest fashions.

"This is what I am buying when I am rich & famous"

Once the show started, bathing suits came out first. And they were a big hit!  There were one piece suits as well as bikinis. Each suit was prettier and more stylish than the next. As I looked at each of those suits I thought to myself, could a “real” woman wear that, and I have to say, for most of them, the answer was yes! (Here’s my secret for bathing suit season, self-tanner. It is amazing what a tan will do for you before you make your first appearance in a bathing suit.  I use Jergens Natural Glow and it really does work).

There were plenty of summer clothes. Lots of pretty shirts, open backs seem to be very in this year as well as asymmetrical hem lines for both women’s shirts and dresses. Initially I didn’t know if I liked that kind of hem line, but after seeing it on the models, I believe it is very flattering.

The summer dresses were flowing, graceful and exquisite. I happen to be a summer dress fanatic.  I scour the stores starting this time every year looking for the best dresses. Orange and mint green seem to be very popular colors this year (I have already bought some outfits in both these colors and love them).

After the show there was a lot of buzz among the crowd.  Everyone seemed to love the show. Love the clothes and of course, loved those models.

Can’t wait for my next show!

Dream Big …

Patti

www.ninefrogs.com

Just Leap

I am sure most of you have heard the following passage:

The jump is so frightening between where I am  
and where I want 
To be…

Because of all I may become

I will close my eyes and leap!

- Mary Anne Radmacher

Yup, that’s about how I felt a couple of weeks ago. See, I was asked to give my first “formal” speech. Not that I didn’t want to speak? Speaking in front of a group is something I have been working on for the past several years. It was just, now this was reality. I was really going to speak in front of a group of people, OMG. And they asked me! 

I had no idea of what to do next? And my mind filled with a million doubts (no surprise). What if they didn’t like me? What if my speech sucks? What if I forget what I am talking about? What if they don’t like my outfit? The list was endless. 

So I did what anyone else would do. I reached out to my peeps. The people that I go to when I need reinforcement, guidance, motivation, inspiration, you name it! And to no surprise of my own, every one of them said the same thing… “You can do it Patti” “This is what you have been working for Patti” “You were born for this Patti” The more I thought about it, the more I knew they were right. 

When the night of the speech came, I knew I was ready. Dressed in my “power outfit” (a new black dress with my Michael Kors sandals), I walked out of the house confident and ready to go. 

As I was being introduced that night I could feel my heart pounding out of my chest. Here it was, the moment I was waiting for, nervous and excited all in one. Don’t ask me what I spoke about, I don’t remember. Well, I remember the main points, but that’s not the point, the point was that I did it, and I did it well (at least I think I did it well). I got a very positive reaction from the group. I was proud of myself for doing it and making the people I gave the speech to happy as well. 

Did I come out of my comfort zone? Yes. Did I take a giant leap of faith? Yes. Did it pay off? More than I can say! Sometimes loves, you just have to do the thing that makes you so uncomfortable, to take that leap. The thing that makes you sweat, that makes you squirm in your seat, has you thinking “no way I can do that”. And yet, that is the “thing” you need to do. If for no other reason, just to prove to yourself you can do it. Because once you do, I promise you, you will be so freaking happy with yourself. Amazed and proud that you did it. 

We are all capable of doing so much more than we think? We all need to start take chances, be brave and take GIANT LEAPS!Because you never know what can happen next!!!

  

Dream Big …

Patti

www.ninefrogs.com